One goal that I have for 2021 is to spend 15 minutes a day reading something related to my practice. I thought that I would share a highlight of what I am reading each day with the world as a way to hold me accountable and to pass on to you all what I am learning each day.
Today, I read Validation Starts With You by Karyn Hall, PhD. I have been reading tons about validation and the role it plays in healthy parent - teen relationships, and will definitely be sharing more about that in the future.
My highlight from the article is "Validation doesn't mean approval, it's about understanding."
Check out the video below to see why I chose that!
I have been fortunate to meet wonderful people in my community who are as passionate about athlete mental health as I am. One of my peers works for North Carolina Youth Soccer Association and asked me to write a piece for their May Newsletter to celebrate Mental Health Awareness Month. I loved getting to share my passion with others across the state, and now with all of you!
Here is the link to their newsletter version of the article.
I have also adapted the article in the post below.
Mental health – it seems to be the new buzz word in the sports world, but what does it actually mean? According to mentalhealth.gov, mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. Many associate only the diagnosable conditions such as depression and anxiety with mental health; however mental health also encompasses your psychological wellbeing, your ability to control your emotions, your cognitive functioning and your interactions with people.
Athlete Specific Mental Health Concerns
Athlete’s exercise, eat healthy and have friends in their teammates, so they must live on the resilient and thriving end of the spectrum, right? Unfortunately, that is not always the case. Athletes are human too, and often have more pressure and responsibility than their peers. In addition to the typical stressors that can initiate a mental health decline such as: academics, life transitions, society, loss; athletes are up against much more when finding balance and maintaining their mental health.
High Visibility - Athletes of all ages receive more visibility in their communities than non-athletes. This means that their biggest successes are celebrated, but their struggles are also well documented. In this day and age of social media and instant news, a student-athlete is pressured to be perfect all the time. Samantha Cerio, an Auburn University gymnast who dislocated both of her knees, had to plead with the public to stop sharing the video of her injury because of the emotional response that it triggered in her.
Culture of "toughness" - According to research from the University of Michigan, student athletes are less likely to seek help for mental health concerns. About 1 in 3 adults will seek treatment for depression, but in athletes, that number is just 1 in 10. Athletes report stigma-related concerns including team status and playing time. These are concerns felt for all injured athletes, but when you add in the fact that mental illness is an invisible illness and carries an added stigma, the likelihood of student athletes reporting drops significantly.
Injury - When an athlete is injured, they can experience grief similar to that of losing a person. Depending on the severity of the injury, the athlete may require surgery and grueling rehab which pulls them away from their team and sport. It is completely normal for athletes to go through periods of denial, anger and resentment before accepting their injury. If the injured athlete is also dealing with anxiety or depression in addition to their injury, it could cause them to experience more significant symptoms than they were before the injury.
Time demands (and lack of sleep) - Student-athletes are expected to spend significant time outside their school day dedicated to their sport. Athletes typically spend anywhere from 2-6 hours a day at practice or games. This leads to having to stay up later to complete homework and less sleep than their peers who are non-athletes. In addition to the time spent after school, student-athletes miss more classes due to travel which results in having to make up missed work, adding to their already stressful load.
Common Mental Health Disorders
Anxiety is the most common mental health disorder amongst adolescents. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), 31% of adolescents experience an anxiety disorder. That does not include the individuals who are not diagnosed or seeking treatment for their disorder.
Although the prevalence of generalized anxiety disorder is on the rise, not all anxiety is a bad thing. Anxiety and worry can be normal and healthy parts of our lives. It can even be a helpful part of our lives. An example would be when an individual underestimates an opponent or assessment and it results in poor performance it may be that the lack of anxiety led to lack of preparation. Worrying about playing well, relationships and school are expected and normal, so how does one know if it is a problem?
Depression in Athletes
Being a teenager is hard. You are experiencing completely new situations, having responsibilities and expectations dumped on you, trying to get in to college to further your education, balancing social media and real-life drama, all while your body and brain are changing daily. These body and brain changes affect the way you think, behave and respond. Throughout this time in your life it is normal to experience emotional ups and downs. But, if that sadness lingers for weeks or months, it could be more.
According to NIMH, in 2017, an estimated 2.3 million adolescents aged 12 to 17 in the United States had at least one major depressive episode with severe impairment. Although depression is common in teens, that does not mean it is not a serious issue. Depression (major depressive disorder) is a medical illness that can interfere with your ability to handle your daily activities, such as sleeping, eating, or managing your school work.
Signs & Symptoms of Depression
Ways to help
Anxiety and depression are real. No matter how great your life is, you may still experience these symptoms and need professional help. Just like you would seek help for a broken bone, it is important to get the help you need for your mental health. There are some ways to help us stay more towards the resilient and thriving side of the continuum, that can be done alone or in addition to therapy and medication. This is known as self-care.
If you search the hashtag #selfcare on Instagram you will be overloaded with pictures of facemasks, bubble baths and luxurious spa trips. While all of those sound wonderful, they aren’t the types of things I am talking about. What fills your cup, and makes you feel whole again? Those are the things that will help you build resiliency and continue to thrive. It could be as simple as going for a walk (without your phone!), making sure you have eaten a healthy meal and are hydrated, spending time with your loved ones, or dare I say playing a sport other than the one you play competitively just for fun. It does not need to be fancy or Instagram worthy, but doing small things each day to take care of yourself will help you be able to handle the small challenges in your life in a healthy way.
Progressive muscle relaxation (PMR) is another technique that is recommended for athletes who are looking for a way to relax. In this simple technique, you slowly tense and relax muscles from your head to your feet. By tensing your muscles before relaxing them, you enable yourself to relax them more thoroughly after you release, letting go of physical tension more effectively. Releasing physical tension can also release psychological stress and tension. Athletes are naturally in tune with their body and more aware of physical sensations that non-athletes, which is why PMR is very effective.
How to help others
A question I often get asked by adolescents is how to help their friends. There is a fine line between being a gatekeeper of information, and a safe place for your friends to talk. It is often helpful to have a set of guidelines when talking about difficult topics.
The following is adapted from Mental Health First Aid Training:
Assess for risk – Is the person you are talking to or concerned about at risk? Risks include self-harm or suicidal thoughts. Signs of being at-risk would be feeling helpless or hopeless, talking about not wanting to be alive anymore, visual signs of self-harm. If you are concerned about their well-being, reach out to a professional or call 911.
Listen non-judgementally – Empathy is key here. You want to avoid a negative reaction or judgement about what they are telling you. Understand that everyone is at a different place on the mental health continuum, and what may be a small problem to you could be major to someone else because they are not as resilient. Try and be supportive and understanding. Keep in mind no comforting statement ever started with “at least”. I highly recommend watching Brene Brown’s video on empathy vs. sympathy to learn more. Statements like “ that must be really hard for you” are much better than “Omg, I know, I went through something exactly like that and …….” Being genuine and present will help, even if you don’t say a word.
Give reassurance and information – Reassure the person that you care about them and want to help them. If you know of resources, provide them. If you aren’t sure, offer to help the person find them. Remind the person that they are not alone. When in the midst of a mental health crisis, or just a bad day, people can feel very alone and that is a scary feeling. Your presence and reassurance that they matter can do more than you know.
Encourage appropriate professional help – This is huge. If someone was complaining about an ankle injury, we would recommend that they talk to an certified athletic trainer or an physician, but when someone mentions mental health issues, the stigma can prevent us from recommending professional help. We don’t want to suggest that we think they are “crazy”. If we change the way we view mental health, and encourage seeking help in the same way we view physical health, we will save more lives.
Reducing the stigma
Talk about it – Normalizing the conversation around mental health. As coaches, parents, athletic trainers, older siblings and teammates we can talk about our experiences with mental health like we talk about our experiences with other injuries or disorders. If we mention mental health in our preseason talks, we give our athletes permission to talk about their mental health with us.
Posters & handouts – In most athletic training rooms, there are posters showing different anatomical structures, warning signs of dehydration or concussions etc. What if we shared information on anxiety, depression or other mental health concerns? I love the idea of posting quick mindfulness exercises. The more athletes see mental health being taken seriously, the more likely they are to seek help when it is needed.
Mental Health Apps
Cellphones can be a great resource if used properly. Below are a few apps that can benefit your mental health. They provide different ways to relax and decompress.